It always seems to save time in an SL relationship if in the early..getting to know you phase, you mention what you are looking for in an SL partner. Well, let’s not use that partner word, let’s just call it lover.
Three nights ago I meet a very nice gentleman. I think he was pretty clear about what he wanted.
- Don’t fall in love
- He would rather mix SL and RL
- He does not do exclusive
- He doesn’t care for southern women
He has left broken hearts behind him because the women were way more emotionally involved than he was. He finds if he is a bit difficult from the beginning with the ladies, they won’t fall too deeply for him. Yup..he said that!
Ok – he was being a good communicator. I am a firm supporter of the theory “If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, looks like a duck….it’s a duck”. But oddly enough I liked him and wanted to hear back from him. He made me smile.
Our second conversation the next day also went well..so well, that I lost track of the time.
Third encounter – a slow dance. Ok, so I flirted a little. He did not react well. Well, that’s not true. He didn’t react at all. No whispers, no touching. Hmm….something was off. Then he says it.
He wanted me to admit that I was cheating on my RL husband by being on SL. If not physically, then emotionally. This from a man who knows nothing about my RL, very happy marriage. I stood there like an idiot on the dance ball and let him lecture me. Because, as a southern woman, I didn’t want to be rude. When he was done. I was ALMOST speechless. But I did tell him he was not the one to judge me or my marriage. Then said goodbye.
So what am I looking for in a SL relationship?
- SL stays in SL.
- I do exclusive. *If he requests it. During the "just friendship" thing, of course he does not have to be exclusive
I would never cheat on a man in SL anymore than I would cheat on my husband in RL. I like a man who knows what he wants. If he has multiple lovers in SL…he has not found the right lover. He has not cared enough about one woman that he would walk away from all the others. No, SL is not a lifetime commitment, no one expects it to be. But for a few weeks or months in this place, well, I'm sure you get the idea.